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Weekend Flow – Bonding time with Kums

As a working mum I always feel like I don’t spend enough time with my baby so I always try to do fun things with him when I can and Kunmi loves going out , so much so that I am positive that if he could just live in a tent outside the house he be out there before you can say Barney. So whenever I can, we always go out and just have a ball. Now when I say go out its doesn’t have to be fancy , babies don’t ask for much. It could be as simple as taking him grocery shopping and letting him ride the cart or putting things in it, Kunmi loves that because it makes him feel in charge, he sooo cute.

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This weekend , I had planned to take Kunmi out but  I had to go to the market with my sisters and my mum unexpectedly, to buy fabric  for a relatives birthday and my mum suggested that we take Kunmi and I was like WHHHHHHHATTTTT! Then she said we could take his buggy and I knew there was something wrong with her at that point , just imagine a baby in a buggy in the middle of Tinubu square (TOTAL INSANITY DAWG!) there is no way in this life that you can compare the Lagos ‘high street’ to Oxford street. The funny thing is that upon all the insanity I actually went along with the plan minus the buggy though I mean there was four of us anyway so how bad could it be we would just rotate baby carrying duty.

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So we jumped in the car, shades on feeling like bad babes , we got down and we were strolling into the market, my mum was carrying the baby and GBAM! she and Kunmi came crashing down. As in, they fell onto the ground, and then I became an Africa Magic Yoruba mummy panicking and talking about how my American baby has fallen down in a Lagos market ( HI NEVA EVA NEVA HEXPEDED HIT)

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They got up , Kunmi cried (he was totally traumatized) but for the most part everyone was fine , we got in to the market , he made some friends and then he wanted to get down , he started trying to put on random generators and people were shocked at how sharp Kums was.

We got out and took pictures and people were looking at us like we were cute tourists so we started speaking fake french it was the funniest thing. All in all we all had a great time despite the fall.

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Taking time out with the kids is something every mummy should do what do you do with your babies? Let me know.

Remember if you want to talk about anything just email Temilola@ftmbaby.com

 

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Inside Baby Mamas – Pushing

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You go into the labour room knowing you have to push but not necessarily knowing how to do it, do you just squeeze your face or scream real loud or what? If you didn’t feel this way I have to say you gurl are a superstar because I had not the slightest idea of how to push.

The pushing phase is the second stage of labour and it usually happens after you are fully dilated , now at this stage some people feel the natural urge to push and some people don’t, I guess that is why people say there are 2 ways to push. One being the mother-baby led way and the second being the coached way. The mother-baby led pushing is when your body sort of lets you know when to push , its a natural urge and you body sort of goes into auto pilot and your brain just know this is what you should be doing, while the coached way is when the nurses or Dr tell you to push. They would usually count from 1-10 then you take a deep breath and start all over again.

Both ways usually get the job done, which one is the best way? I have not the slightest idea. I have always been a fan of doing what feels right. That doesn’t mean you should ignore your caretakers i.e Dr’s and Nurses just try to find a healthy balance,.

Now that is out of the way, I am going to tell you how to push. Its probably the easiest and the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. Now considering the fact that I failed maths nearly every time I did an exam or test I must say I am really proud of my pushing formula and here it is

The P Formula ( Pushing Baby = Taking a dump)

I promise you that is all it is, just think back to all those times you had a really hard poo to push out, pushing a baby is just like that and luckily for me I felt the urge when it was time and I started pushing even before they allowed me to , I just could not hold it in and four pushes later out came baby Kunms!

If you have any questions or you just want to talk you can reach me via email Temilola@ftmbaby.com

 

 

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Weaning Diaries – Bottle to Beaker

Hey Mummies!

Its been nearly a month since I have put up a post, I have been soooo busy. Kunmi is 17 months now and he is A HANDFUL , he is like a mini baby agbero its so sad , I am actually considering buying a little ruler for smacking his bum bum.

I have also been holding off on ftmbaby fav’s till Kunmi turns 18 months to do an early toddle ftmbaby favs so expect to learn all our fav’s next month.

I was inspired to write this post by a lady I met in church who asked me when and why Kunmi was using a sippy cup/beaker for his milk and I realized most first time mums probably do not know when and why you do this.  Before I give you my gist, I must say I am no professional and most of the parenting I do is really pay as you go or maybe mummy as you feel will be more appropriate.

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Now Kunmi has been using his sippy cup since he was 6 months for things like water and juice and he would just normally have milk in his bottle. He loved his sippy cup so much because it made him feel like he had some control and he generally just felt like a big boy with it and that made me very happy until I noticed  he had a different relationship with the feeding bottle and when he had it he  was just always lazy, he would never want to hold his bottle himself and he always sucked even when there was nothing left in the bottle just because he liked the sucking. So as a bad sharp super mummy I knew it was time to break the relationship before it became more than I could handle, he was about 12 months at this time.

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I already had several sippy cups but I also got some nuby cups to review from topbabiesng.com and I really liked them and they were also affordable and they could take up to 10 o.z, so i started with new cups so he felt they were special which always works all the time. Babies always pay attention to something that is new.

Please make sure the sippy cup you pick is age appropriate and it can actually take the proper amount of milk for your baby. We don’t want baby to cry because he/she is still hungry.

It took him 3 days to get used to the idea of drinking milk from the sippy cup but it was very easy for me to wean him from the bottle and for that I am truly grateful to the kid. You on the other hand might not be so lucky, just remember that every child is different.  Do not be scared, babies can smell fear , at least that’s what they say in the movies lol. The transition is very easy, all I did was to reduce the amount of meals he had with his bottle. So if your baby has 3 bottles every day, you will give him/her 2 bottles of milk and one sippy cup and increase at your own pace till they are bottle free.

All in all I would say make it fun, you can give the sippy cup a name and always tell your baby they have done a good job once they have finished a meal in their sippy cup.

If you have an questions or you have a weaning tip or story of your own please email me temilola@ftmbaby.com


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Happy Children’s day/ FTMbaby is 1!!!!!!

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Happy Children’s day to all the babies out there! We love you! I am so happy its Children’s day not only because I get to celebrate my beautiful baby but it also happens to mark the day I officially started FTMbaby and today we are one! I can say (HI NEVER EVER HEXPEDEDIT)

I would like to say a big big big oroboisious thank you to everyone that reads this blog and to everyone who keeps coming back , to those who send me encouraging emails and to those who drop comments. Your support means a lot to me, you guys are awesome!!! I have put up our special FTMbaby poster above and you can download it as a screensaver by just saving the picture ,  I hope you guys love it as much as I do.

Now to the main main.  You see when I was little, Children’s day meant nothing to me, it was just a day that you didn’t go to school. I didn’t get ice cream or hugs or even a smile, I got nada. So I am struggling with what to do for Kums, or what not to do. Maybe I am just supposed to hug him and not shout at him for the day or let him swim in the toilet free of charge, which he does now and I don’t even see how that is a cool thing. Kids and their weirdness.  I also thought of taking him somewhere special during the weekend although the economy is quite deliciously low in my account right now. Is children’s day something you celebrate? Let me know what you and your kids get up to, don’t forget to send pictures Temilola@ftmbaby,com

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Let’s talk money – Taking care of baby

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I got an email a while ago from someone asking me to write about the financial implications of having a baby. I thought it was a great topic to write on but I kinda needed more time to be a parent before I could write about it and right now I think I am fully inspired to do just that. I always say having a child is a blessing, I mean hundreds, in fact millions of women are out there praying for a child at this exact moment. So the fact that I have one is something to thank God for constantly.


But I cannot lie, I sometimes think of how rich I would be if I didn’t have a child and before you judge me I know this is sad but it pops in once or twice and I am sure every parent has thought about this at some point, if you tell the truth.

Now to the main main. Having a child can be cheap and expensive all at the same time it all depends on the choices you make as a parent. You are probably wondering what choices?  Well choice like where you have your baby, what formula you give that baby if any. what brand of diapers. what school will they go blah blah all these choices affect how many zeros will be on that cheque.

If you don’t eat more than you can chew as they say , you should be fine. It can be exciting when it is your first, and you want to buy everything in this world but just calm down and be objective about things, you don’t need that diaper genie , that you think you need and your baby doesn’t need a ton of clothes at this stage because they become so big , so fast. So save that dosh, because you will need that money sooner than you think, for other crazy things like school fees which I will write about later.

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Losing yourself and getting you back

Hello!

Recently I have been feeling a bit overwhelmed, I feel like everyone wants a piece of me and there is nothing left to give, I am too busy solving other people’s problems, being a wife , a mum, a sister . a daughter and a worker. It becomes very tough to deal with all of these things. I can’t help but think how and when did I become like this , how did I become the most boring human being alive. You feel like you have lost a little bit of yourself and you have become a different person and I know a lot of mummies feel like this at some point or another.

So I have decided to have a ME day tomorrow, I am going to ship Kunmi away, switch off my phone and tell Timi to shove off. Do the things I love , pamper myself, dance naked, read a book , drink some wine and just live my life and try to find myself again under all the layers of diapers, baby tears, clothes and poo and just love being Temi without having to think of making breakfast, lunch and dinner for 2 boys. I am soooo looking forward to tomorrow.

If you have ever felt this way , how did you handle it? I would love to know. You can comment below and for more secretive talks you can email me Temilola@ftmbaby.com

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Inside babymamas – Things that would save your life after baby

The first few days after you have had your baby are pretty magical and tough at the same time especially when you are a first time Mom, but I am here to help you with a list of things that will make your life much easier so you don’t start to write if I had known essays later. So here it goes

.1. Breast pads – I had Kunmi in the US and my mum was coming from Nigeria to be with me during the birth and she said she was going to make a stop in London for 2 days just so she could go and get me some special things and I thought she was being a drama queen but she wasn’t, she was being wise somebody say mama knows best.

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My boobs would cry every time like it just watched the Titanic, so naturally the breast pads were my best friends at that point. They stick to your bra so they are not noticable at all.

.2. Nipple cream : When people will talk about breastfeeding , I honestly did not think it was a big deal at all and I sure as hell did not think it will be painful. However mummies the first time Kunmi latched on it was so painful, he sucked so hard and I was wondering if he had practice with an invisible boob in the womb because he knew his stuff men. Every time he would latch on from then on it was a non stop train and he didn’t get off till he falls asleep it was something else. So my nipples will ache and crack but thank God for Nipple cream it works wonders

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.3. Maternity sanitary pads – It is so funny how you leak from nearly everywhere after you’ve had your baby, you need a good thick pad to absorb the fluids , you should only bleed for a couple of days so don’t be too worried about it.

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Good underwear : I would suggest granny panties even great granny panties and if your hospital has make sure you ask for a lot so you are fully stocked.

Food – This may sound funny but you need food and if you don’t have any help with you , you might want to cook some meals before the baby comes so you can just microwave your meals and swallow if you are lucky and your baby sleeps for long periods you may have the privileged of chewing lol. Why? well its because babies need a lot of love and you will not have time to do any cooking in between feeding, nappy changes and crying spells when he/she is wondering what the hell they are doing outside the womb.

So that’s it really , I hope I have covered everything. If you have any tips leave your comments below and for questions email me Temilola@ftmbaby.com

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Dear Junia Giveaways!

I went away for a little bit to an interesting place in Africa called Kenya!!! and it was a refreshing break from the hustle and bustle of Lagos but I have to say i am glad to be back.

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Before I had Kunmi , I used to read a lot , I lived for my books and I think my books loved me too. In comes baby and I haven’t  been able to read a book to the end. I actually had not realised how bad this was until I was asked to review a book on the blog and I have to tell you the author is a superstar for being so patient with me because I have been slacking thank God for Kenya.
The book is called Dear Junia and it was written by Tomi Makanjuola. It is a story about a young girl who dreams about her future daughter and decides to write letters to her , teaching her about herself and also sharing life lessons. In turn the letters gives her courage to try new things and improve herself.
I love this book because as a mum,  I can completely relate. Having a child makes you change and most times for the better , I guess there is something about being responsible for another human being that makes you want to be a class captain. I think I might also write letters to Kunmi for the future (we should all give it a go)
 
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You can purchase this book on Amazon on kindle and paperback
For kindle -

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Now because my birthday is Tomorrow, Yes Happy Birthday to me. I am giving out two copies of Dear Junia. To win just enter the give away below and comment on how being a parent has changed you

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FTMbaby Recipe – Homemade Pizza

Its been such a long time that I have put up a recipe and its not because I haven’t been making interesting food, its because I couldn’t find the cord to upload pictures from my camera. I have a feeling its somewhere in Kunmi’s secret treasure trove one day I will be a good mummy and he will reward me with my cord and we will be reunited once again. Until then I have managed to find a make shift cord. Praise the Lord , somebody!

I am still on my healthy living lifestyle and I can say right now I am a calorie counting guru , I am losing the weight but sllllllllllllllowwwwwwly, I keep on begging myself to be patient and it turns out I am pretty good at begging. I had been craving pizza and I was sooo tempted to go on Hellofood and find someone who will deliver to me but instead I opted for making a nice small pizza for myself at home and it was hhhhaaammmazing!!!

HOW TO MAKE pizza

The things you need

Pizza Base – Spar

Grated Mozzarella cheese

Diced plum tomatoes

Tomatoes

Mushrooms

Fresh Basil

Olive oil

Salt

Italian Seasoning (Optional)

Garlic

Ham (Optional)

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The main main

Open up your tomatoes and cut them into even smaller pieces , add your garlic , salt , Italian seasoning and a little chopped basil to the tomatoes. Put your base on a chopping board and brush the olive oil on the base. Spread the sauce on the base, then sprinkle your mozzarella on, add your sliced tomatoes , sliced mushroom and ham.

Pre-heat the oven at MEDIUM heat, then pop your pizza in (please put it on baking paper not foil) leave it in for about 15 minutes or till the cheese has melted and the base it brown round the edges.

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That’s it guys, correct pizza right at your doorstep. If you try this recipe let me know how it turns out!

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Post natal battle scars – Tears and co

Hurray! you have made it your baby is here and you are so happy, fast forward 24hrs and you begin to feel your body again and you feel like you have been run over by a BRT bus 28 times and then you realise you have a tear or an episiotomy and it really sucks. Its OK , you will be fine.

After Kunmi I had a 2nd degree tear and it really bothered me , I couldn’t walk properly , I couldn’t sit properly it just wasn’t cool but here is how I made myself feel better.

.1. Numbing spray and Pain Killers – Please do not be like me and assume you are super woman just because you had a baby and say no to pain killers you will regret it just like I did. If you are bad at swallowing tablets like me I suggest you get a pill crusher. That thing is amazing. Numbing spray helps to numb the area of the cut so its pain free for a little while , you can use this after you have had a shower and after you go to the toilet to stop the stinging .

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.2. Spritz Bottle: This bottle is a little bottle you can put warm water in to and  spray on the cut after you have used the loo so the cut stays clean and uninfected it also helps with the stinging and it is a must have! Fill it up with warm water just before you use the loo and you will be golden.

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.3. Sitz Bath – This was my ultimate life saver, you cannot do without this trust me. It is very easy to do all you need is a bowl you can squat on or if you can get the special sitz bowl that sits in your toilet seat that will be super. That is what I had. Boil some water put it in the bowl , add some salt ,sit down and let the steam do the magic.

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If you have any tips to add , please leave a comment below. Don’t forget I am always available for a chat just email Temilola@ftmbaby.com