When I found out I was having another child, I was really scared about being a mum to another human, I mean with one child you can fake it till you make it but with two you have to be on your A game. I used to just sit down and cry over this , I mean Real tears. Then I had to go away for 3 months to have Ire and I was faced with the hardest decision of my life. Should I leave or take Kunmi? I asked nearly everyone I knew , debated it, had sleepless nights about it until I decided I would leave him in Nigeria with his dad and the 2 nannies.
I do not think I made a good decision. Even though I had made a schedule of daily activities and set down rules, the boy I came home to was way different from the boy I left. He was stubborn, always crying, so not cute plus his teachers said he was probably watching too much TV because he was too animated in school. I was devastated but that wasn’t the worst part , the worst part IS he doesn’t really like me anymore. The husband says thats not possible apparently I am his mother and he still loves me now I used to believe this until Kunmi himself informed me I was not his friend. He said to me MUMMY, YOU ARE NOT MY FRIEND, DADDY IS MY FRIEND BUT YOU ARE NOT MY FRIEND.
My heart is broken but at least Ire still loves me even though I know he is here just for the Boob Juice. Today I overheard my husband begging Kunmi to give me a hug when I came home from work but he said he didn’t want to.
At this point I have come to accept that maybe Kunmi won’t love me, he will just use me as his sweet opener and occasional photographer. What can I do to get my child back? How are the mummies with 2 kids handling this? Please comment below and if you would like to talk email me firstname.lastname@example.org